I have a few things here, and since it’s been awhile since the last update of this blog maybe it’s time I clear my desk of stuff and put it here where it belongs.
First item: Way back in April, I mentioned a forum I frequent/am a member of. http://mjmsprt40.com/2014/04/15/this-is-filler/ As it happens, due to a number of things both external and–mostly– internal, that forum has run its course and closed just a few minutes ago. A few of us have moved on and will keep things up between us, but– no great surprises. (Note to Josh: No, it’s not DnD. DnD is still in business and still quite healthy, if what I see is any indication.)
The next item is actually an ongoing thing, kinda has to be considering my rather stormy divorce five years back now. My ex and I no longer communicate, and that’s a good thing considering that she likes to use people. Just so’s y’all know.
Some of the stuff concerning this in my mind comes from right here in these WordPress blogs– I’ve been following a few but recently gave up one– and from the fact that I stop at truck stops and look at the books on the racks there. Pilot/Flying J has “Choice Books” available, these are mostly geared towards people of a Christian mindset, and I will at least glance at these every time I’m in there. Lately, I’ve seen a book titled “How to get your husband to talk to you and reveal his heart”. I took a quicky glance through the book, it looks like the authors may be on to something– especially as my past experience says things coulda been better. The TL;DR version runs something like this: If you want your husband to talk, don’t set traps for the poor dude so that everything he says is automatically wrong. I speak here as a man: Once I know I’m in trouble regardless of what I say, silence becomes my native tongue. Then you wonder why we don’t talk about our feelings and so on.
Concerning the blog I stopped following: This one was written by a guy who thinks he’s a king, and he’s going to date and marry someday a loudmouth, opinionated (bless and do not curse) queen– and somehow, he’s going to have a home that you would actually want to live in. I wish him all the luck in the world, he’s gonna need it. Uh, king, you know that’s why old castles had dungeons, don’t you? One of you will be spending a lot of time in it— trust me on this.
Last item: Self flagellation. One blog I presently follow has had a problem with this. I come from a slightly different situation, being that my wife was abusive physically and verbally, but— somewhere along the line if you want a marriage to work it takes two people–OK, I’m a Christian and it really takes three, counting God– to make it work. No amount of repenting and setting yourself straight will do any good if your partner is unwilling to forgive and try again. I see– in a Christian marriage forum, no less– too many stories of men trying to rebuild their marriages after the wife has fallen out of love, but the wife will have none of it and the husband is frozen out regardless of what he does or doesn’t do. At that point I lose some interest in reading about what a piece of crap the husband is, and the wife skates free of any responsibility for the broken marriage. Excuse me, she is at least as much responsible as he is. I can’t in good conscience let her slide while blaming him for everything. If the marriage is to survive whatever happened, it takes both partners making a serious commitment to rebuilding the damaged relationship. Women seem to have a particularly hard time with forgiving past transgressions, they seem as a group to be incapable of it– certainly my ex could drag up stuff from our first marriage in 1989 as if it just happened this morning– but until she does there just isn’t much the man can do.
OK, I lied about that being the last item; this is: It was brought to my attention on the WUWT blog that WordPress has a new editor, namely the “Beep beep boop” editor. It sorta replaces the default editor we’ve known. OK, I used the old editor here because I get here through my dashboard, and usually use the side-bar on the left to find the place where I call the editor up. I did take a quick look at beep beep boop, and maybe next time I’ll give it a quick shake-down cruise. Right now though, it isn’t that much of a bother to get the original editor and just use it.