I hadn’t wanted to do it, for one reason or another. One good reason is that it’s been five years– or will be in November, since the divorce was final. Gives you time to lick your wounds, try to re-build and get on with life. But, you know, every now and then domestic violence rears its decidedly ugly head and forces you to deal with it whether you want to or not.
I am a male victim of domestic violence. My ex-wife was physically and verbally abusive, and in the late watches of the night I can still hear the things said that shouldn’t be said to anybody you supposedly love. It never really goes away, you know. I got out of it in March of ’09, went to live with my sister for about a month and then began the rather stormy process of ending the two-year marriage. She demanded– yes, demanded– that I divorce her, I think in a further attempt to make me look as evil as possible.
Recently, a “You-Tube” video came out. Actually, I think there’s been a couple of them. One showed the reaction when a man hit a woman in public. Most people did nothing, but one fellow did step in and put a stop to it if I remember right. The other showed what people did when a woman hit a man in public. Nervous laughter was the most energetic response, and thoughts that the man must have done something to deserve it were voiced– strangely enough by some of the same people who would be outraged if you suggested the woman had done something to deserve being hit. “How dare you blame the victim!” if the victim is a woman. Hmmm… a little bit of double-standard, eh?
I’m probably going to do a few posts here on this and related subjects, now that I seem to be back into it. Here’s a link to a blog I’ve commented on, seems this kind of thing draws fire from several quarters. Since people have come here because of my post there, I’ll return the favor.