It’s like this, d’ye see? I’ve been following some married Facebook friends, and they tell how to make marriage work—-well, sort of. The problem is that it all runs one way. If the husband wishes to have a long-lasting marriage, he is advised to give up his friends (wife doesn’t think they’re good enough) give up his hobbies (too dangerous or expensive or both) and in general get used to the idea of being treated like a 4-year-old who shaves by his wife.
I want to know how this makes for a long marriage. I just don’t see how. If dear wife subscribes to the “If a man speaks in the forest and there’s no woman to hear him, is he still wrong” theory, then communication between husband and wife MUST die because of the massive disrespect shown to the husband. (Incidentally, I saw that quote on FB, and the chorus of women who say “Yes, yes, absolutely yes” is mind-boggling.)
So— hubby trudges off every day to long hours at a job he hates to make money for a woman who despises him (sorry ladies, calling it like I see it) and he is eventually blindsided by the divorce she files because “He’s not the man I married”. Gee, I wonder how that happened.
So, what I want to know is—- how does any of this make sense? As a man, it looks to me like the smart move is to fight shy of a deal that only destroys me in the end. I’d like to believe it would be different– but when I see so many of my FB friends painting the bleakest possible picture of marriage (if you’re a man) it just doesn’t look different.
Tonight, I will share this post on FB— because I really want a sensible answer, either in the comments here– look to the left of this blog for the comments, if you’re not a spammer I will authorize your response— or on Facebook.